On Saturday, October 28th the Second Annual Veterans’ Resource Fair will take place at the First Baptist Athletic Complex on James Island from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm. Many service providers and veteran-friendly businesses will be available to provide information to veterans of all ages. Representatives from the Tri-County Office On Aging will be present to answer questions about Medicare Open Enrollment. An information on Aid and Attendance will be conducted at 1:00 pm. Vendors interested in attending or veterans with any questions please contact Nancy Bloodsworth at (843) 410-8175 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Recently my friend who is a caregiver told me she felt obligated to care for her cranky elderly mother (whom she loved but never really liked), because she suspected mild dementia and worried about leaving her alone. I told her how important it is to have her mother evaluated by a dementia specialist immediately because with early diagnosis and treatment the condition can be addressed more properly with the correct information.
When the family member we are trying to care for is impossible to please, it’s often because of long-standing family dynamics. I’m not talking about someone in intolerable pain, or someone who has little control over their brain because of dementia or Alzheimer’s. In those cases, we often need to get the help of professionals, whether it’s hospice for end-of-life pain or a memory unit for Alzheimer’s patients who may not be safe at home.
In preparation for the Veteran Resource Day that was hosted by American Legion Post 147 on James Island in April, I contacted virtually every business on the island in order to research if they offered veteran discounts. Thankfully there are quite a few so I would like to express my gratitude as well as offer some free promotion. The first category is restaurants:
Recently, I wrote about my brother’s passing and factors related to processing death of a sibling as an adult. As my sister and I were discussing the article, the topics of what happens to accrued points and miles upon death as well as other digital accounts such as Facebook and Twitter came up.
Since I had no knowledge in this area, I researched these topics and I will present the most current information about digital asset management, according to South Carolina law.
Regarding how accrued points and miles are processed upon one’s death, it is best to query the individual hotel, airline or credit card because policies vary across the board, with some allowing transfer to a spouse but not to children (as in the case if mentioned in a will). A website I found helpful, the Points Guy, offers a lot of tips on how you can manage points and miles, to include gifting them to people and/or charities while you are still alive. It’s prudent to know what programs your spouse is involved in; a number of articles stated there are thousands of unused points due to death with a lot of value. (‘Til death do us part: Loyalty rewards don’t live on)
According to the U.S. census, with a time frame of 2011 to 2015, there are 9,124 veterans living in Charleston City and 29,554 veterans living in Charleston County. According to another source, from Data USA, of the 21,812 veterans living in Charleston County, the numbers break down as follows:
- WW II (665) (3%)
- Korea (2087) (10%)
- Vietnam (11348) (52%)
- Gulf (1990(s)) (3842) (17%)
- Gulf (2001-) (3870) 18%
In addition, in 2012 there were 1862 veteran-owned firms in Charleston city and 4,592 veteran-owned firms in Charleston County.
Bottom line, there are a lot of veterans of all ages living all around us. American Legion Post 147 on James Island is having a Veteran Resource Day on Saturday, April 22, 2017 from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm. Our goal is to conduct an outreach as well as foster a sense of community among our veterans and their families.
On February 3rd, I received an End of mail forwarding service notification from the USPS. At first I didn’t read it because I assumed it concerned my recent move in October.
But the notification concerned another event. I had set up the mail forwarding for my brother. Last March, Brian passed away in an isolated living arrangement in Washington. He was 59 and the oldest of my three siblings.
Whether our sibling was younger or older, whether the death was sudden or anticipated, whether we were very close to our sibling throughout our lives or experienced periods of separation, we all experience grieving when a brother or sister dies.
A couple of years ago, I read an article encouraging readers to take the time to research and know the answers to a few basic questions about our local, state and federal governments. I have kept it in a box with my other “someday” projects.
However, the recent election cycle and the protests that ensued really encouraged me to get my house in order and be able to nail down answers to questions about my governments that are truly rather important. I have been fascinated by the various “interviews on the street” on TV of people, some of them protesters, who don’t even know what the issues are they are protesting about when asked.
I have been out of the military for over sixteen years but one of the disciplines I still maintain is my dedication to regular exercise. I also entered the military as a multi-sport athlete so I have enjoyed athletic competition for a long time as well. Regardless, whatever love-hate relationship you have had with getting your body moving in the past, you should realize that regular exercise is crucial to your quality of life, most importantly as we approach our “golden years”
The only way your fitness will become and remain a priority is if you choose to make it so, even if you have never exercised at all. It may not be easy, but it’s possible, and most of all, it’s important to your health. The key is to develop a routine that complements your new lifestyle–here’s how you do it:
We are now grandparents and I am struggling with my self-identity.
To clarify, I know how to be a:
- Daughter and Sister
- Military Officer
- Business Owner
To try to get some perspective, I started to reflect on the relationship I had with my only grandparent, my tough, German immigrant Nana. Living in New Jersey, my mother would take us on trips to see Nana in Wading River on Long Island, New York. When I was born my Nana was ten years older than I am now, so age was a factor.
I remember a lot of rules:
- I could not get up early because she needed her “peace” in the morning with her coffee and bread and she wanted to be alone.
- We had to finish everything on our plate. She was a great cook, but at times this nine-year-old could not stomach Swiss Chard which sent her into a tizzy.
- We played a card game called Kings in the Corner, but if I won too many games, she would throw the cards down and storm off to bed. This would make the situation even more awkward because I had to sleep with her when I visited and I wasn’t allowed to untuck the blanket.
However, recently I discovered a lot of letters and cards she wrote back to me and she was supportive, loving and interested in my life. She was a tough, smart lady and later owned Mueller’s Deli in Wading River for many years. She was well-recognized in that area as a shrewd business person.
This article was originally going to be titled Phase III, after I wrote Moving Mom Phase I and Moving Mom Phase II, I was going to relate how my mother was adjusting to life in Charleston, SC, and I had planned to write about how we had worked out all the kinks of her relocation here.
However, in December, I brought my mother back to Pennsylvania to another assisted living facility at her request. My sister located and vetted a facility very close to her so we all made the joint decision to see if she would be happier (Translated, have less to complain about!)